Ask Lucia (02/04/09)

In this installment of Ask Lucia, a beautiful cougar asks if she and her cub can keep their love alive when others think they're kidding themselves...


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Dear Lucia,

I met a young man 23 years younger than myself online playing a game.  We ended up falling for each other 3 months into the game and then 3 months later we met each other. 

We had so much in common even with the age difference.  It was a long distance relationship but we fell in love.  We were together for a year after we met, and then we both started feeling strange about the way people would look at us when we held hands or hugged. 

After a few months, we decided it would be best to just be friends, and it has been so difficult.  I love him so much; want to be with him all the time and I just don’t know what to do anymore. 

Is this normal?  I was married for 25 years and never ever had the type of relationship with my ex that I had and still have with my friend.  We laugh, cry, tell each other things that no one else ever knew.  Can we still keep this relationship alive without the love making and still have the love exist?  We both think we can, but others tell us we are just kidding ourselves.

Cel


Dear Cel,

Welcome to the wonderful world of younger men.  People who have not experienced it for themselves, can’t believe that an older woman would be able to have a strong connection with someone so much younger, but you and I both know better.

As I’ve always said, the reason there can be such a connection is because it’s about energy, not age.  You’re connecting on a deeper, soul level, and of course, the soul is ageless.

If you are in love and want to be together, then go for it.  Who cares what other people think or say? It’s none of their business.  They are simply stuck in an outdated way of looking at things and don’t know how much they’re missing out!

It can be so difficult to find someone you deeply connect with, that when you actually do, you need to follow your heart.




About Lucia
Lucia is urbancougar.com's resident expert on cougar-cub relationships. To ask her a question, contact her at askanexpert@urbancougar.com.

Host of the popular L.A. radio show, “The Art of Love” and a syndicated advice columnist, Lucia is a renowned cougar relationship expert and former Urbancougar of the Month. She has shared her wisdom on countless radio and television programs including The Tyra Banks Show, E! Entertainment, The KTLA Morning Show, and Playboy Radio. Her book, Lucia’s Lessons in Love, is available for purchase here.