Ask Lucia (11/24/08)

In this installment of "Ask Lucia," our resident expert offers her advice on interracial dating to young African American in search of "true cougars."

To ask Lucia a question of your own, contact her at askanexpert@urbancougar.com.

Hi Lucia,

I am 37 and African-American.  I typically date Caucasian women 5-15yrs older than me.  My conventional wisdom creeps into my head that many older, white women have no experience with interracial dating and this could be a major roadblock to both dating and a strong relationship   I live in the Twin Cities and this is the most diverse city and accepting of interracial relationships that I have seen. 

What advice can you give me on how to attract those quality cougars that are open to dating interracially?   There are a lot of wannabe cougars but clearly they are not in the league of those true cougars.  Many women think because they are older and look decent and date younger that makes them cougars, which it doesn't.

I consider myself a charming, witty, beguiling, confident man but need a few pointers to get me to the next level. 

Tony


Hi Tony,

Thank you for pointing out that just because a woman is older and dating a younger man, that she is not automatically a cougar.  I believe a cougar is the Rolls Royce of older women.  She is at the top of her game and has it together mentally, emotionally, physically and sexually.

Since you are in the Twin Cities, it should be easier to find a woman who is open to interracial dating.  If you want a quality cougar, you need to be a quality cub.  This means you look good, have class and manners and of course, are great in bed.

After that, it’s a matter of going to places where an older woman might go and approaching anyone who catches you eye.   If you’re as charming as you say you are, you shouldn’t have any problem getting a phone number!





About Lucia
Lucia is urbancougar.com's resident expert on cougar-cub relationships. To ask her a question, contact her at askanexpert@urbancougar.com.

Host of the popular L.A. radio show, “The Art of Love” and a syndicated advice columnist, Lucia is a renowned cougar relationship expert and former Urbancougar of the Month. She has shared her wisdom on countless radio and television programs including The Tyra Banks Show, E! Entertainment, The KTLA Morning Show, and Playboy Radio. Her book, Lucia’s Lessons in Love, is available for purchase here.

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